I can certainly understand your visceral reaction to sailing. What a horrific loss! Thank you for sharing his story.
While it doesn't make me any more nervous, particularly, it does make me want to share a thought I had while going through this process. I asked myself how I would feel if Clay was injured or killed during this trip.
Deep down, honestly? I think I would feel better knowing my kid died doing something that made him feel wonderful and excited and alive, rather than keep him sheltered and safe and protected. Of course, I recognize the fact that I might feel very differently if it came true.
But... I tried to move past parenting via fear a long time ago. Letting fear fuel limit my options and rule my decisions felt very wrong to me... life is much sweeter if we can set the fear aside and move ahead.
I'm tired and being unclear in my thoughts here. Let me just say thank you again for another perspective, and offer my appreciation of your willingness to overcome your reluctance to add your story to the discussion.
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Date: 2010-06-16 06:21 am (UTC)While it doesn't make me any more nervous, particularly, it does make me want to share a thought I had while going through this process. I asked myself how I would feel if Clay was injured or killed during this trip.
Deep down, honestly? I think I would feel better knowing my kid died doing something that made him feel wonderful and excited and alive, rather than keep him sheltered and safe and protected. Of course, I recognize the fact that I might feel very differently if it came true.
But... I tried to move past parenting via fear a long time ago. Letting fear fuel limit my options and rule my decisions felt very wrong to me... life is much sweeter if we can set the fear aside and move ahead.
I'm tired and being unclear in my thoughts here. Let me just say thank you again for another perspective, and offer my appreciation of your willingness to overcome your reluctance to add your story to the discussion.