I'm sorry I haven't responded to this earlier. I wanted to thank you, Uncanny, for sharing the story of your partnership. It sounds a bit like my path in some ways, except for the smart couples counselor part and everything after that. So after our degrees and babies and 16 years (we started at 17, married at 21), I really WAS the "first wife."
Now I'm another first wife, and intend to stick with this position. By the way, Bob's not Darwin's handle, that's Bill. One day way back at the beginning, I lamented that "relationship" was so danged long, and when we were talking about it, I wished there was a shorter word for it. Bill said, "How about 'Bob'?" and so our relationship's name is Bob. We really do regard him as an entity all on his own, and check in with each other by saying, "How's Bob doing?" Our wedding invitations had a lovely ambigram of "Yay, Bob" that Dart made for us on them. We celebrate Bob Day each month on the 17th (Bob came into being on Sept. 17, 1999).
I love that thought from "Andre" (still haven't seen it... really should). Thanks and good luck with those fights!
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Date: 2009-04-11 01:30 pm (UTC)Now I'm another first wife, and intend to stick with this position. By the way, Bob's not Darwin's handle, that's Bill. One day way back at the beginning, I lamented that "relationship" was so danged long, and when we were talking about it, I wished there was a shorter word for it. Bill said, "How about 'Bob'?" and so our relationship's name is Bob. We really do regard him as an entity all on his own, and check in with each other by saying, "How's Bob doing?" Our wedding invitations had a lovely ambigram of "Yay, Bob" that Dart made for us on them. We celebrate Bob Day each month on the 17th (Bob came into being on Sept. 17, 1999).
I love that thought from "Andre" (still haven't seen it... really should). Thanks and good luck with those fights!