For the last number of years of her life, my grandmother would have some notable downturn when people left. (When my father would go back to Australia for the year, or if she heard that my mom was going to be out of town, or any time after a visit ended.) I'm not saying that she faked these incidents, but, there was more of a correlation than just chance would imply.
I think that you probably should not move to take care of your parents. I think that primarily because it is not a really good place for Lincoln to be - at times it has been unsafe, and when its better than that it is still not an environment that allows a child to thrive.
But i also think that asking yourself to do as much as they need, even if you are living close, would be very bad for your mental and physical health. It is a REALLY hard job.
I don't know about in CA, but in NY there were a lot of services available to help the elderly - with different cost structures. It seems like it may be a good idea to see if they can get an aid to come in regularly to help with the chores and make sure they are getting along alright.
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Date: 2009-01-20 05:27 pm (UTC)I think that you probably should not move to take care of your parents. I think that primarily because it is not a really good place for Lincoln to be - at times it has been unsafe, and when its better than that it is still not an environment that allows a child to thrive.
But i also think that asking yourself to do as much as they need, even if you are living close, would be very bad for your mental and physical health. It is a REALLY hard job.
I don't know about in CA, but in NY there were a lot of services available to help the elderly - with different cost structures. It seems like it may be a good idea to see if they can get an aid to come in regularly to help with the chores and make sure they are getting along alright.