I bought into the whole have-a-career-and-kids-simultaneously concept, until I realized that nobody was going to do as good a job raising my baby as I was, because nobody... no matter how much I paid them, no matter how great a childcare provider they were... absolutely nobody cared as much about my kid as I did.
Ideally, though, there should be at least one other person who cares that much about your kid: the kid's other parent. And, well, kids and parents need to eat, so unless you have an independent income source, SOMEONE needs to be away enough to work, etc.
My husband turned out to be a better full-time parent than I would be (and it literally makes no economic sense for him to work), and I had the educational background and skill set to find a better-paying job than anything he could. (Not that anyone in my field should be doing it for the money, but...see above, people need to eat.) I don't think that means I care ABOUT Alex or new-bit-to-be any less.
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Date: 2008-05-30 06:30 pm (UTC)Ideally, though, there should be at least one other person who cares that much about your kid: the kid's other parent. And, well, kids and parents need to eat, so unless you have an independent income source, SOMEONE needs to be away enough to work, etc.
My husband turned out to be a better full-time parent than I would be (and it literally makes no economic sense for him to work), and I had the educational background and skill set to find a better-paying job than anything he could. (Not that anyone in my field should be doing it for the money, but...see above, people need to eat.) I don't think that means I care ABOUT Alex or new-bit-to-be any less.