While i appreciate the idea that sex shouldn't be so taboo in our society, this 'game' just came across as pretty juvenile to me. There is a thrill in asking for something forbidden, and i think the game was more fun for that reason than because it tore down walls. The project seemed to me to be a way to justify what was inappropriate behavior by elevating it to a social experiment.
I think a more mature way to express 'i think you are beautiful' to someone would be to say, 'I think you are beautiful', 'i like how your shirt compliments your body today', 'i love your hair, do you mind if i play with it?' In the end, part of the reason for the social convention of using these complements is that it gives people a chance to know each other and work towards intimacy. Part of the reason is that it is nice to recognize that someone is beautiful, and to tell them so, without necessarily wanting to jump their bones.
It also bothered me that this is all about boobs. I happen to like mine. But not everyone is all about boobs, and not all sexual contact is about boobs. Of course, asking something like, 'can i give you a massage' isn't so thrilling, because this is already an accepted practice for people who want physical contact but aren't close enough for sex.
*shrug*. I guess i'm with you, in the end, although i think its pretty harmless, too (they did emphasize the right to say no, afterall).
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Date: 2008-04-23 04:44 pm (UTC)I think a more mature way to express 'i think you are beautiful' to someone would be to say, 'I think you are beautiful', 'i like how your shirt compliments your body today', 'i love your hair, do you mind if i play with it?' In the end, part of the reason for the social convention of using these complements is that it gives people a chance to know each other and work towards intimacy. Part of the reason is that it is nice to recognize that someone is beautiful, and to tell them so, without necessarily wanting to jump their bones.
It also bothered me that this is all about boobs. I happen to like mine. But not everyone is all about boobs, and not all sexual contact is about boobs. Of course, asking something like, 'can i give you a massage' isn't so thrilling, because this is already an accepted practice for people who want physical contact but aren't close enough for sex.
*shrug*. I guess i'm with you, in the end, although i think its pretty harmless, too (they did emphasize the right to say no, afterall).