After natural childbirth classes, and going into it with a great desire to deliver naturally, I had a C-section for "failure to progress" which more than one "pro-woman" aka "anti-Cesarean" advocate hs told me is a bullshit reason. Guess what? My only regret is that it was not done in the 15th hour of labor when I was screaming for intervention instead of in the 30th hour when a doctor finally came on duty the following morning who was willing to proceed with it instead of going home for a good sleep. By the time the operation was done, I didn't care if the baby died or if I died, I just wanted it OVER.
There is not always a clear distinction between elective or not (especially in the altered frame of mind associated with extreme prolonged pain), and even if the surgery is elective, that's a thousand times better than having to endure excruciating pain and forever associating childbirth with one of the worst days of one's life.
I wish that however a woman chooses to deliver or give milk to her baby would just be left alone by everyone else. C-sections are not always bad or last resort, and bottle feeding is not child abuse. I know you are a good and thoughtful person, and you may not mean it this way, but how I read your comment is "you are not bad for having this bad procedure, it's your doctor's fault for pressuring you into it" when in fact the procedure is often the best choice because it is the choice of the mother and/or a conscientious caregiver.
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Date: 2007-12-13 04:27 am (UTC)There is not always a clear distinction between elective or not (especially in the altered frame of mind associated with extreme prolonged pain), and even if the surgery is elective, that's a thousand times better than having to endure excruciating pain and forever associating childbirth with one of the worst days of one's life.
I wish that however a woman chooses to deliver or give milk to her baby would just be left alone by everyone else. C-sections are not always bad or last resort, and bottle feeding is not child abuse. I know you are a good and thoughtful person, and you may not mean it this way, but how I read your comment is "you are not bad for having this bad procedure, it's your doctor's fault for pressuring you into it" when in fact the procedure is often the best choice because it is the choice of the mother and/or a conscientious caregiver.