Actually, I'd rather you called me and got permission before you opened letters addressed to me, too, if that's cool.

Gee, I feel much the same. In fact, when my *partner* of 16+ years opens my mail, she tells me first (and then I call her a felon). But it's never important stuff when she does that, and I totally understand how you feel.

(And I agree about the announcing thing, although I also know how yer mom feels.)