It's a shame you haven't had good fortune with bartering (eg tub use for child care, meditation room for knitting, etc) in your new neighborhood; I seem to remember you discussing its benefits to you in KC.

I hope that writing it all out helps you think through it. For me, if I can talk to a live person, it helps. If you want to talk to the phone, I'm happy to listen in increments of 20 minutes or less (I get antsy after that).

Thanks for keeping up. I may do a similar long post later, if lj decides to honor me by loading the pages, which it wouldn't do for the previous 2-3 days.