If you want to stage a pissing contest about who's feeling more resentful here, we can do that. It won't be productive in any way, but I've got enough resentment pent up about this that I am entirely willing to spend some emotional goodwill and do some damage to our relationship in order to show you up in the resentment department, and I bet my anger-based resentment will stomp the hell out of your guilt-based resentment in bare-hands combat. I'm not doing it in a public forum, though. Talk to me privately if you really want to have this blowout.