Well, FWIW, i used to be a punk-rock engine-fixin' engineer. I played in hot-oil-spewing rigs with a bunch of ex-army guys. I went to school in a class of 80% males, i talked shit with the chauvinists in the 100% male CS class (and programmed their butts off), i work(ed) in a lab that is mostly old-guys, and supported our house-hold for a while when J was out of work.

Look at me now.

I think you're doing ok - you are a stronger individual than most.