did you get something out of this about how to protect your current marriage?
I guess it seemed to me as though it was reasons for failure (some present from the beginning), but not as much ways to prevent failure.

(mmm... i agree about having to know how to fight. Its something J and I have worked on a lot. I probably also agree about seeking help earlier, although this is not entirely under my control, and a tough sell.)

What have you learned?