Navelgazing

Aug. 3rd, 2011 11:22 am
mamagotcha: (flower)
I love what feminism has done for my generation. But I wish it had been able to do it without instilling huge doses of guilt for choosing to raise my kids at home, enjoying cooking and baking, and being interested in handwork. Despite my belief that I have made the best choices for me and my family, I am coming to the conclusion that I am going to feel guilty twinges for the rest of my life. As we know better, we do better: the freedom to choose a certain path does not equal disdain for those who choose differently.

I know that this phenomenon (feeling judged and defensive) crops up when one is ambivalent or insecure about one's own choices. I've seen it so many times... my decision to homebirth or homeschool or breastfeed makes some other moms feel like they MUST shoot down my choices in order to bolster their own positions. It's been hard to learn that I don't need to take those attacks personally. But when I'm attacking myself for my own choices? Not so easy to deflect anymore.

I value all those things when others do them. It's my own situation that my tapes seem to sneer at, over and over. I wish I could get over it already.

And apropos of nothing: welcome back, LJ! Still working out how G+ is going to fit into the mix, but I think I still like LJ's format. I wish the spammers would knock it off already, but other than that... glad to be back!

Baja boy

Jun. 14th, 2010 11:38 pm
mamagotcha: (flower)
So Clay is off to Mexico, starting a 3-week (or longer) sailboat odyssey with one of my oldest friends, Jean, and her sweetie Dave (who was also a neighbor of mine when I was 8), on the two-masted ketch Exit Strategy (they keep a sailblog, in case you're curious).

Mommish meanderings. )
mamagotcha: (tattoo)
So I finally got my mitts on a copy of Linda Bacon's Health at Every Size (thank you, [livejournal.com profile] 1firefly!) and devoured it the day it arrived.

Lots of ideas smooshed into a few paragraphs... )

Our bodies are pretty freakin' amazing, and I'm learning to be more and more awed and grateful at how well my own has done over the years. This is all coalescing into a strong message to me: listen to your body. You know more than you think you know. Trust your instincts, but do your homework as well.

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